safe, happy in. John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. Somehow this post made the task seem less impossible, and I thank you a lot for that. Bit by bit.I have escapism i run from my problem rather than face them“500 million people on 10000 hours”?! Best of luck to you!No need to cite my full name, Anthony – feel free to do as you wish with the article 🙂Of course this article makes sense, but it’s like telling somebody who is stressed “DON’T STRESS OR I’LL KILL YOU!” Many people escape reality because their reality sucks and even if it’s unproductive they’d rather live in a fantasy just to numb the pain. Be careful in finding a Christian Group. i have struggled with fantasizing all my life…and managed to turn some of those fantasies into reality….i noticed you describe yourself as an anarchist, and i would say i definitely am an anarchist as well.
but now i am 18 and my life just crumbled in a span of 5 months and before i knew it i had nothing, and there was nothing i could do about it.no, not like ‘i broke up with my boyfriend’ typical teenager bullshit, but real llife situations ( mental hospitals back to back for depresion, neglect, financial, emotional, verbal, and physical abuse from both parents, missing prom and graduation because i was in the mental facility, going shelter to shelter, moving city to city, harrasmenet, my dad being in jail, and then my mother leaving me in the middle of nowhere with no one to help me and no money to even buy a donut and she didnt even give a shit.)
I might timetable myself tasks for each day and set a series of alarms to tell me to do them so that I’m more consistently in the real world.Fantasy in doses can inspire you, it’s when it becomes an escape. I think this will really help me. Thanks Mikey, I really enjoyed reading this article. In particular, this is said very well:this article has really opened my eyes. Some days – like this – you just want to opt out.Thank you for sharing, Cati. In fact, work could be considered escapism for many, and their “escape”/vacation helps them re-connect with real life.I’ve told therapists, but they don’t really focus on that as the issue…I understand why (it’s a symptom), but it’s also making it very difficult for me to make real changes in my life so I think it’s important.The ultimate “goal" of escapism is the destruction of “self". I’m going to try writing down the answers to the questions you’ve raised. I need to escape the world. I am not attractive enough, and most other people are even less attractive than I am. Guess it’s the way to break away from fantasy. This is something I’ve struggled with a bit too. The doctors were at a loss to explain it. I’ve actually phoned friends and asked them to distract me in any way possible because it’s like water torture. Corresponding author of this paper.
In some cases this will be far easier than others. That’s the only long-term solution. However, it’s a short term solution, and if you rely only on fantasy it becomes harder and harder to live life and have the confidence to make changes and move forward to a fulfilling life. My brain fixates on something and then it just loops and loops and loops and I just want it to end.I’d like to ask what do you think of reading as a form of escapism, especially reading fictions? Then, I started doing it before sleeping and then during the day.
There is plenty of evidence that avoidant (escapist) coping methods are associated with depression, but which causes which?Hi Elsa, thanks for the comment! I would throw myself at men who were out of my league and they would accept me, for a while, usually just to have sex. Economy of mechanism: Keep the design as simple and small as possible. Either I knew this somehow and didn’t care, or I convinced myself that they really did love me, if I could just fix some small things about myself. Bye!However it is also true that some people just hate this world so much, that if they did not have escapism, they would kill themselves as their only way to escape this world.I have read through your post and i get it, but at this moment when the world is full of terrorists chopping peoples heads off, bankers robbing people blind of their pensions and savings, government ministers giving themselves big pay rises when nurses, school teachers etc are having to endure cuts after cuts, so on and so on, i can really understand why some people WANT to escape into a world of fantasy!Thank you, I appreciate the compliment!